Dating at 30

It’s the valentine week. I remember I wrote an article for the Hyderabad Times in 2011. It was called ‘ A Single Day of Love’. I was single then, and I spoke to my seniors about this idea a week before Valentine’s Day. The article was about how people were embracing their single-hood and were going to indulge in doing things they love the most and are passionate about. I think the message I wanted to drive home was that people need to be happy with themselves first, and then find someone who’d make them happy.

Cut to the chase. I recently turned 30, and I am single, which is not a bad thing after all. But people will tell you all kinds of things cos you’re now ‘old’.
All the things that I am going to be writing here are out of experience, either personal or of people in my close circle.

Dating at 30 is visibly very different from dating in your 20s. You may call these tips, but I am no one to advise you. These are certain observations I have made and convolutions that I have tried to resolve while I try to live my life to the fullest.

Let your guard down

At your 30s you’re at the prime of your life. I was recently having this conversation with a friend, who’s going through a divorce in his early 30s, about how when you’re young you are unsure about what life holds for you. You’re just starting out your career, and let’s agree for the most part you’re broke. But when you’re in your 30s, you’re earning well, you have your career in place and are self sufficient. You indulge in good things because you can. You’ve figured out a way of life for yourself. A lifestyle like this is very addictive. You get so used to your own company, cos life is comfortable. Comfort is always appealing. In this process, you distance yourself from emotions. You forget to appreciate the presence of another person. In simple words, you have your guard up high. You’re scared to alter your lifestyle for obvious reasons.

But, hear me out and let your guard down.

Remember how when you’re a child you’re not scared of having a fall. It’s the same with emotions; you are vulnerable at all times, 20s or 30s. Let go off these inhibitions and let people in. Get acquainted with your emotional self again and discover like minded people. Honestly, uptight is such a turn off.

Steer clear of biases 

I cannot believe how taboo the term ‘divorce’ is in some of our communities. I personally hadn’t considered this a possibility; as in it never crossed my mind if I would consider dating a divorcee. My cousin and I went over this and realized, it was not likely that we’d come across a divorcee in our early 20s. But in 30s, it’s a possibility that cannot be averted. I have made it a point to steer clear of any bias that I may have had until now.

Move on from your past

Maybe you were a mess because of what happened with your ex. But that doesn’t mean you are always going to be one. I hear people saying ‘Oh, I wish you had met me earlier, when I was not so broken’. Forget people, I myself am guilty of saying this a couple of times. But you will not always be broken. Time heals everything, and it’s important to leave the hurt behind as you heal. You are not expected to recite your heartbreak story on your first date or your second or your third. You’ll know when the time is right; but just don’t be pulled down about it.

An understanding of who you are/Know what you want

When you’re in your 20s, what you wanted may have been very different from what you want now. I knew exactly what I wanted from my first relationship; I wanted to be with this guy and I put love above everything else. But things changed and we started to evolve into two very different people. I realized, what I wanted was actually only what I thought I wanted, not exactly what I wanted. I wanted to be the giver of affection, and I enjoyed it. But after a point, I had nothing to offer; I was exhausted. That altered the way I looked at things. 

It’s always important to keep rediscovering yourself and identifying the things you want. 

Do not time-box anything

We get a lot of grief for not having our life sorted because we haven’t found the ‘one’. But no good can be reaped out of being stressed about a particular timeline. We need to stop time-boxing these things and let things flow at their own pace. Just be assured that it’s your sanity that matters. 

Age is just a number

As cliche as it can get but there is so much truth to this. Age is after all just a number. You may fall in love with someone at any point in your life, and in the most unexpected way. No matter what the age (or the age gap), what matters is the fact that you’re in love with the person and see a future with them. 

Never Settle

If you know what you want, then never settle for anyone that you’re not into just because they fit the bill. Of course nobody is perfect, but don’t run into something that you may regret later. 

Wear your heart on your sleeve (Be honest)

When I say this, I mean be as raw as you can. Like I’ve written before, I think baring all insecurities becomes a challenge as you grow older. But be honest about your likes or dislikes. About your past. About your status. About your identity. Dishonesty is also a turn off. 

No, you don’t have to reveal all about yourself on your first date. But when you have a connection with someone and think things may go forward; find the right opportunity to tell them what they need to know. 

Listen to yourself

Listen to yourself. Your hunches are your best guides. You may want to seek opinion of your friends and family but you know best what you want. 
Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Some of my girlfriends always advise me not to be the first one to text, but that’s not who I am. If I want to text someone first, I would go ahead and do it. 
You may have your own quirks, own them and be yourself. 

Have fun

Just cos you’re 30 doesn’t imply you need to do boring things. It’s also very easy to get caught up thinking about the future. Maybe you haven’t met the one, you’re not married, and you don’t have kids yet. You may have certain expectations, but it’s never okay to project it on every person you meet. Give more of your mind and heart to having fun. Find things that interest you and do them together with the person you’re getting to know. Also, at this age, you know exactly what you enjoy. So it becomes clearer to chose what you want to do.

Of course I put together an outfit for this post. If you know me, you’d know my love for pleats. I’ve been on a spree of buying all things pleated and my latest buy is this lovely champagne pleated skirt. I paired it with a black solid blouse that has some drama going around with its sleeves. This definitely could be an ideal outfit for your first date.

A Happy Valentines to everyone out there 🙂

Christmas in London

City sidewalks, busy sidewalks
Dressed in holiday style
In the air there’s a feeling
Of Christmas
Children laughing, people passing
Meeting smile after smile
And on every street corner you’ll hear

Silver bells
Silver bells
It’s Christmas time in the city
Ring-a-ling
Hear them ring
Soon it will be Christmas Day
!

This carol that I’ve known since a kid started to make sense when I walked through the beautifully lit streets of London.

If you’ve read my first blog post of 2019, you’d know my year started on a brilliant note. Landing a new job, making new friends, rekindling old friendships et al. But in the midst of all this I missed out on travelling to any new place. I was literally stuck in Hyderabad; part of the reason was just me being lazy. But my plans to visit London kept me excited.

Going to London was always a dream; but visiting this gorgeous city was not the only reason I was looking forward to. If you’ve been following me on Instagram, you’d know what else I was excited for. It was for ALTER BRIDGE. I have been a huge fan of the band; ever since it came into being – from a quartet called Creed to Alter Bridge. Remember the ‘My Sacrifice’ days? I somehow knew if I had to choose any band that I’d travel to watch live, it would have to be this one.

When Alter Bridge announced the release of Walk the Sky I saw their Instagram post and I happened to share which also had their walk the sky tour dates. So a friend of mine who lives in the US, asked me, Are you coming here? I saw that message and I thought for a bit, well going to the US would not be possible but I could go to London and that’s how the plan came into being. My friend Paul and I jumped on the idea and booked our tickets to the concert in a jiffy. It was all coming together – I was going to visit one of the beautiful cities in the words, watch one of my favorite bands live, and do it all around Christmas time. Although my friend happened to get married later last year and couldn’t accompany me. But my dear friend Dhanya aka creativegenious agreed to join me.

We flew Eitihad airways via Abu Dhabi. It was my first time ever boarding an Airbus A380 and it was massive. We did have an itinerary in place and had tickets to a couple of well-known attractions booked in advance. But heart of hearts we knew that London is one of those cities that demands you allow days at leisure in your itinerary to explore on your own and that’s exactly what we did.

For the first couple of days, we were utterly touristy and went to Madame Tussaud’s, The London Eye, Buckingham Palace, Tower Bridge among others. The rest of the time we wanted to explore the city.

Christmas time in London is almost overwhelming. It was my first Christmas away from home. The Christmas markets are such a delight – bustling with tourists of course, with yummy food to hog on and a series of shops selling creative stuff. The energy is infectious.

Central London is a place that you can walk for hundreds of hours and still find new things to do. It just makes you want to embrace everything English.

We met a few friends over for lunch at Salisburry, a pub – short for public house (Did you know that?). We had the best pub lunch ever – Classic Fish and Chips and British Chicken & Woodland Mushroom Pie. Well, it took me a while to get the name right – check it out here SAWZ-bər-ee. I read this somewhere – If pubs in London had sexes, then the Salisbury would definitely be a lady. It’s so ornate and grand in Victorian style and has also been used to film a few movies. The place definitely has my heart; cos it happens to be the place I downed my first cider; a big deal for a teetotaler like me 🙂

We walked around Covent garden, touted to be a must visit for anyone who loves shopping. Through the craft stalls at Apple Market, all the countless street performers, plush stores, and eateries. There was also a Huda Beauty pop-up *Heart eyes*. Here’s an interesting site I found – Things to do in Covent Garden.

I seemed to be writing this not to the key, cos I can barely remember what we did on what date. But what I do remember is that the Alter Bridge concert was on the 21st. I was waiting for it since June, duh! The concert was happening at the iconic O2 – and we were staying right across it, on the other side of the River Thames. We took a cable car to get to the venue.
The O2 is H.U.G.E. The enormity of it will take your breath away. We walked a fair amount to reach the arena at which the concert was happening. We reached early and were lucky enough to save our spot up in the front.
The Raven Age, filled in for Seven Dust, who couldn’t make it to the UK tour. The Raven Age are a melodic metal core outfit from London and I quite liked their music. Then came Shine Down. Honestly, I wasn’t a fan of this band before this concert but I definitely I am one now. If a band is wondering how to put on a great show, they should look no further than Shinedown. The production, set-list, and overall performance were nearly impeccable. What showmanship by Brent smith. I loved their outfits too.

Of course Alter Bridge was everything I was hoping for and MORE. It was a day to remember; I legit teared up. They played all of my favorite songs – Wouldn’t you rather, Come to Life, Isolation, Blackbird. And of course a brilliant set of acoustic numbers – In loving Memory, Watch over you, and OPEN YOUR EYES. I have watched Myles Kennedy live with Slash and the Conspirators, but being an Alter Bridge fan – I just had to see him play with Alter Bridge. His voice is inimitable.

Needless to say, I also had the best Christmas eve ever. After much anticipation about attending the Midnight eucharist at St. Paul’s, because of the shut down of public transport, my friend Sunny made it happen by driving me to the cathedral. Before we could head to the service, we walked around Leicester Square and made our way to Chinatown. We had some brilliant food there that also involved me tasting duck for the first time; also thanks for my foodie friend.
Services at St. Paul’s cathedral are open for all; I had been researching that for quite a while. However, we decided to reach as early as 10:45 PM for the 11:30 PM service, and yet found ourselves standing a never ending queue. Each time we moved forward, we kept ourselves, “Did we make it?” And we DID! We were among the last few who made it, in fact. The cathedral in all its glory, was far beyond beautiful. I have no words to express its grandeur. Also, photography was restricted indoors, so sadly I couldn’t get any pictures of it. The midnight eucharist was something that I had been looking forward to; since I go to an anglican church here in Hyderabad too, it was great to experience it first hand in England. Christmas Day was equally special, spending time at a local church who were kind enough to have us over for a classic English lunch.

The rest of my stay just happened to fly by in a jiffy. We shopped a whole lot on boxing day. We covered all the major shopping avenues – Westfield Mall at Stratford, Harrods (bought a ton of make up from there – will probably post a video about it soon), Oxford street. We even happened to walk around Elizabeth street, Belgravia to check out all the pretty cake, jewellery, and clothing outlets.

But the best part of my trip, which was totally unplanned, was when my friend took me to the Ain’t Nothing but Blues Bar in Soho. Soho happens to be the buzzing entertainment district in central London. Walking into a blues bar and interacting with people from different places, who were only there to enjoy the good music, was something I had only dreamt of. But thanks to my friend who took me there. I mean thank God for people who have similar taste in music as me.

The market in Greenwhich, where we went to the next day, had this interesting vintage pop-up with the loveliest of blouses. We discovered a new place called Dark Sugars; I say new because my friend hadn’t been there earlier either. The Ghanaian chocolate shop uses cocoa beans straight from the owner’s West African homeland and combines them in a creamy hot chocolate with all sorts of fun, fiery and downright delicious flavors. I got home and looked them up and found this interesting story about how the eatery came into being – Dark Sugars. Camden market was another interesting spot, with quite a peculiar crowd (punks and bohemians). It was filled with sellers of art and off-beat fashion. It’s where I tried my first sushi dish too, thanks again to my foodie friend. Going to Camden was not on my itinerary but it was definitely worth it. Read more about it here – Camden Market.

On my last day there, we took the risk to drive to Cambridge and it was the best decision ever. We left for Cambridge around 9 AM and reached the university town by 10 AM. Started our day with a good Egg Benedict and walked around the quaint city. The best way to cover the town in a limited tune is by punting across The River Cam, and we did exactly that. Our punt chauffer was quite witty and kept us entertained with his humor mixed with some interesting history lessons.

There a lot of misconceptions that the sun never comes out in London, which is not entirely true. When the sun does come it, it’s glorious. And luckily we had our good days, while we were there. It can get a little bit gloomy, but keep your spirits high so they won’t be dampened by the weather.

There are a lot more stories I could write about, but I know for a fact I am still so in love with the city of London and I hope to visit it sometime soon again. For now, I’ll settle for a glimpse of this quaint city; with all its contrasting architecture and ever confusing weather.

Or probably just go there the next time another one of my favourite bands is playing, maybe Foo Fighters 😀

I am so grateful for Sharon akka and her lovely son Ranen who were our lovely hosts; they made the trip even better ❤️

Found this on YouTube 🙂

Lace Fixation

This blog post has been sitting in my drafts for months now, and I decided to finish up today, a gloomy Friday morning. This look has been one of my most liked on my Instagram.

My love for anything lace has been clear and blunt. I still vividly remember paying endless trips to ‘Cheap Jack’ in General Bazar with my mom to pick up the perfect lace fabric for those dreamy outfits.

All of 12, I remember putting together an outfit that I had in mind; a flared lace skirt, a solid shirt and a lace crop jacket to go with it – all in peach.
It was my go to outfit. I would want to wear it to every place we go until I finally outgrew it. Ever since, I’ve not really owned a full lace outfit as I grew weary of anything mildly flimsy. Wearing something sheer or lacy meant factoring in a lot of things; the delicacy of the fabric, the translucency et al – just too much work.

However, when @women_and_dresses sent across this beautiful dress it made me oh so nostalgic. I readily agreed to style it and I think it is safe to say that I cannot seem to part from my love for lace after all.

I think my Instagram speaks a lot about my new found love in beige and neutral tones. I feel like I’ve been leaning towards this aesthetic a lot lately. Keeping it simple and minimal. And of course, the gold brogues; I have had so much love coming from people for these. I picked these up from Ajio over a year ago. I’ve been hunting for them in black but haven’t been successful 😦

Let me know how you like the new look on my blog 🙂

Love,
Rad All Day.

Desi for a Month

First of all, I’m sorry for being so erratic with my blog posts. Call it the repercussions of a new job or sheer laziness, it has only resulted in me being inconsistent with my writing. Yet, you guys have shown me so much love on my Instagram.

If you aren’t already following me on Instagram, a friend and I recently took up the #DesiforaMonth challenge. For the longest time I have been told I might not be able to carry off traditional/ethnic clothes. A few weeks ago I posted an #ootd picture of me in a red kurta and a bindi and I received responses like ‘Oh my God, you and desi?’. So it was only right for me to take up this challenge.

The timing couldn’t have been any better either, as it was the perfect time to pull out all our cotton kurtis for the summer.

And no, this doesn’t mean I went shopping for clothes just to fulfill the challenge. I literally pulled out clothes (that I probably would have not worn otherwise) as old as 8 years and tried to style them differently.

Honestly, these past couple of months have been particularly overwhelming and handling blogging while working had become a bit stressful. I literally have more than five posts sitting in my drafts; I either have not stringed the right words together or do not have the right pictures for them to go live. Anyway, here I am, trying to edit this post the nth time only cos I promised myself I won’t sit on it any longer.

I started blogging while I was working with my previous organization and it was easy to figure out how I would make time for blogging as I was well aware of my schedule and my commitments. However, after I moved organizations, things changed quite a bit–from work timings to time spent on commute. Starting a new job is always challenging, isn’t it? There’s so much involved in it – learning about your job, learning about what is expected of you, learning of the people who work there and most importantly making new friends. Luckily enough, I have always made some good friends wherever I have worked. More so luckily I have found a fashion enthusiast at my current company and hence this #DesiforaMonth.

She’s a powerhouse of positivity and has an infectious laughter. Follow her at devils_angel2511 on Instagram. Our everyday climb down the stairs just to get a good picture was definitely worth it as we had at least a dozen others sporting their desi best and flaunting along #DesiforaMonth.

Outfit Details:

Owing to my metabolism, I have always been a petite skinny girl. I found it very difficult to find ethnic clothes that fit me perfectly and so I’d get most of them stitched. But the horror with some tailors needs no introduction; it’s like they were born to ruin your clothes. Anyway, of late, I have found online shopping sites like Ajio, Myntra, and Jabong house some really lovely ethnic clothes in various sizes — size that fits me precisely.

From the outfits that I am wearing, most of them are from Ajio (Ajio own), AND by Anita Dongre, Sangria, and Project Eve. The #indowestersn look, shirt with the ethnic skirt seemed to be quite a hit with my followers. 🙂

Thanks for all the love again.
I will be back with a new post; sooner than I did this time!

Love,
Rad All Day.

New Year, Rekindle!

‘I was wondering after all these years you’d like to meet?’

I still remember writing my first blog post of 2018 – Whimsical Blossom.

I still remember the grim and dreariness of the beginning of the year as if it was just yesterday, although a year has gone by.

As I mentioned in one of my recent Instagram posts, I was in a place where I was on the verge of giving up on everything I was doing, because I couldn’t believe I gave people the power to hurt me. It altered the way I thought of myself, the way I perceived every emotion and relationship; love, patience, forgiveness, and friendship.

Although my blogpost of 2018 had me saying, rejuvenate, renew, and regrow, I found myself unable to do those myself, because I was met with far more difficult situations as the year went by. Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse, they did. And how!

However, writing was something that strengthened me. I was able to draw courage from all the messages from people. I was able to write my heart out whenever I felt the need to. I may have hurt some emotions and feelings in the process, but it was needed. It was needed, that I bring out those words.

I look back at this year as the most difficult year so far, but that is not going to stop me from making the coming year better. The struggle has strengthened me, reinforced my beliefs, and restored my faith.

As a first step towards making this year a better one, I spent the last couple of weeks trying to rekindle some friendships that I thought didn’t hold any significance in my life. However, now my comprehension of them seems to differ and for good. 

Rekindling old friendships or relationships is quite a vacillating pursuit. But it’s never impossible. 
I came to realise that no matter how wrong someone has done you or how wrong you’ve been to someone, there’s no way it cannot be mended. Holding on to anger and shutting yourself off isn’t the only way out, always.

When you know you can look someone in the eye and not be enraged by their wrong doings, you know you’ve overcome. It is not easy, but it is not impossible either.

It has been a good start to the year after all.

One song that also kept me going was, Everybody Hurts by R.E.M.

Listen to it here: Everybody Hurts


Outfit

Before my favourite kid could leave to pursue his dream at FTII, we met for a couple of shoots together and this was one of them. I never got a chance to post them.

I put this look together to channel my love for White + Denim – The Classic. Paired a pale blue denim with a vintage-y off white shoulder frill top.

I have been musing over Jenna Roi Long‘s Instagram feed for a while now. The hat was inspired from one of her posts.

As always, this kid creates magic with his pictures. I mean, is that even me?

Outfit Details:

  • Off-white Top – Only
  • Blue Denim – Levi’s
  • Gladiator Sandals – Forever 21
  • Sling Bag – Zara
  • Hat – HnM

Pictures by AJ Aaron.

Hope you guys have a great year ahead.

Love,

Rad All Day!

City of Joy

My first ever trip to the city of Kolkata was bound to be one tightly coupled with music, given that the city is known for its culture rich in cinema, art, and music. I have so many friends from the land of Bengalis but never got a chance to visit the place. 

Earlier this year, I was browsing through the lineup of NH7 Weekender, Pune and discovered that Joe Satriani was coming down. Instantly, I booked my passes; cos who would miss that? 

Just the next day, I learnt that Poets of the Fall and Switchfoot were gonna be headlining the NH7 Weekender at Shillong. Bamm! Now, I wanted to go for both the gigs. But I knew I could only make it to one of them (time and monetary constraints). Also, travelling to Shillong was going to be a tedious and expensive affair, so I convinced myself that it’s only going to be Pune this time around. 
Skip to a week later, it was announced that both the bands were going to be headlining the NH7 Weekender Xpress at Kolkata. And I thought to myself, wow, now there’s a chance cos travelling to Kolkata was no big a deal. I was excited beyond words.

I convinced my dear friend CreativeGenious to tag along with me. And the sweet human that she is, she readily agreed. She also ensured she listened to both the bands before she came for the gig. In her words, she absolutely loved the music and she later thanked me for introducing them to her. Yayy win! 

We took an early morning flight and landed in Kolkata around 9 am. We stayed at AltAir Hotel. It was a comfortable stay and was also pretty close to the concert venue. For lunch, we walked down to a quaint little Dhaba round the corner and savoured some yummy butter chicken. We got back to the Hotel and napped a bit. We later took a cab to the venue, Nicco Park, only to realise it was, in fact, walking distance from where we were staying.

An Alternative/Indie band named Tiny Fingers was on stage while we got there and their music was quite impressive. We walked through the crowds and made our way closer to the stage. Since this was the Express edition there was just one stage. The clock struck 8, the POETS banner came down and the crowd couldn’t handle their excitement. That was the start of two hours of non-stop music, as the Finnish Poets serenaded us with some of their best hits. Their trip to India was part of the #Ultraviolet Tour named after their latest album and they rendered some of their new EPs. Cradled in Love and Gravity were the most asked numbers. I got back to a lot of messages asking me if they played ‘Carnival of Rust’, and how could they not? It was their closing number. So Poets of the Fall – Check.

It was my birthday the next day, 4th of November. I was up until 12 am, cuzzz, so many calls y’all! Kidding. I answered a couple of calls from family and close friends and hit the bed. We decided to hop around the city the next day. So after our mandatory cup of chai, we took a cab and headed straight to Prinsep Ghat. Watching fleets of yellow Ambassador taxis sort of amused us. We later headed to Esplanade to do some window shopping and actual shopping if something interested us. We spotted some really lovely shantiniketan leather bags and picked up a bunch of them for ourselves and our friends. We then had our share of authentic bengali food (thali with rice and fish curry). The icing on the cake was the Chai in a Kulhad. It was undoubtedly one of the best chais I have ever had. By now you must know I am such a chai lover.

In the evening, we decided to walk to the concert venue. It was going to be Switchfoot tonight. I have been a fan of this band from times immemorial and what better gift to give yourself on your birthday.
Pentagram, one of the pioneers of Indian independent music (with Vishal Dadlani), was on stage belting some of their biggest hits. The crowd knew exactly what they were in for – A night dedicated to rock music and it couldn’t get any better. They knew their music and enjoyed it to the core. Lots of headbanging coupled with singing along, IN TUNE! Honestly, I haven’t seen this in Hyderabad.

Cut to Swichfoot – they hit the stage with one of my all-time favourite songs – STARS. I remember we used this song as a background track to one of our video productions back in 2009. Wow! 9 years later, I was watching them LIVE. And was it surreal or what? Their frontman Jon Foreman is such an artist. He absolutely has the nack of engaging with the crowd. He jumped into the crowd a couple of times and the young guns carried him through. Ah! The energy of the place was infectious. All of my favourite songs made it to the setlist that night. Of course it included ‘Dare you to Move’.

Outfits

I traveled in the most comfortable clothes to Kolkata – a flow-y tunic, tights, and sneakers. For the first day, I teamed a plaid shirt in olive green with high waist denim and ankle boots! The shirt has some intricate embroidery going on on the back, but I couldn’t get a picture of it. Will put it up on Instagram.
The next day, I wore this ever so lovely dress from Kharakapas. I chose to wear the same boots to add a little edge to the otherwise elegant piece of clothing.

Outfit Details:

That was my trip to Kolkata.

Love,
Rad All Day.

Vintage Dreams

Old school never goes out of style; in technology, in music and almost everywhere. It is no surprise that old long-playing vinyl records of the 1980s and 1990s have been making a steady comeback thanks to dedicated audiophiles. They also make for quaint interiors. Oh so #tumblr. Age old Yashicas too.

The same goes for fashion.

When was the last time you looked at something so beautiful that you just didn’t want to get your eyes off it and took all the time in the world just to stare? Well, of late this has been happening to me with all the vintage clothing that I poozle on Instagram, Pinterest and just about anywhere I can find them.

My day usually starts with me listening to music, sipping on my daily tea and scrolling over my Instagram feed, basically ogling over all the Vintage and Victorian era fashion accounts that I have been following. I am so old school, so I’ve been told; probably that explains it. Well, my choice in TV shows tells a lot – Crown, Tudors and Vikings and of course my choice in music too.

Vintage fashion:

Why it keeps coming back: It complements curves and looks polished but never over-the-top. It’s a classic amalgamation of elan and ease.

How to wear it now: Sophistication lies in the details. Bow-tie kitten heels or vintage-y jewelry can effortlessly class up your outfits. For a rather subtle look, spruce up an old jacket or blouse with a dainty brooch, earrings or a scarf.

Some of the vintage clothing accounts that have been inspiring me:

Outfit

I hope to buy some authentic vintage clothes off of Etsy or a walk-in store someday. The ones that date back to their time. Someday, sigh! But for now, I have experimented and curated a look that is inspired by all that I have been browsing through.

I paired a chic nude peach shirt with a button down skirt in grey tones. The bell sleeves on the shirt and the concealed placket detailing add all the drama to the outfit. Subtle mini floral print on the skirt blends so well with the bougainvillea in the  background. Played up my eyes to a heavy smokey look to make the look all the more edgy.

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Outfit details: 

  • Concealed Placket Shirt with Bell Sleeves: Vero Moda
  • Printed Maxi Skirt with Pleats: Ajio
  • Chunky Heels with Criss-Cross Straps (Not seen in pictures): Ajio
  • Earrings: Forever 21
  • Watch: Fossil

Pictures by AJ Aaron

The one song I can think of that sets the tone for the pictures on this post is by Gabrielle Alpin.

Hope you enjoyed this post.

Love,

Rad All Day.

 

 

Roots

A few years down the line, on a hot summer morning; wouldn’t you love to dig your wardrobe and have that ideal summer dress in the perfect fabric? Would you want to care to hoots about what’s trending or what’s not? Get on the Slow Fashion bandwagon.

The term Slow Fashion is doing quite the rounds on all platforms concerning fashion; but it can only be operationally defined, as a string of words cannot completely explain its meaning.  However, it can be synonymously used for “trustworthy” fashion. Every so often we’re presented with heart wrenching tales of ‘I made your bag, I made your clothes’ – the victims of high/fast fashion as they call them. Slow Fashion started out as a movement to overcome this trend with time.

Slow fashion as the name suggests aims to decrease the speed of production, consumption and disposing by enabling you to place greater appreciation on your purchase. You might want to carefully consider an acquisition, concerning fashion, instead of having just another addition to your wardrobe which may be only worn for one occasion.

Makes you Responsible

Love how Ankita points out in one of her posts, that over the years she’s accumulated way too much jewelry and how in an effort to change that, she has stopped buying cheap accessories completely. What she is consciously trying to do now is to ‘invest’ in pure/precious metal jewelry that will last forever and can be passed down to anyone and more importantly, acquired from brands and people whose aesthetics she deeply admires.

While buying clothes, we’re willing to pay for anything that we think looks good on us. Slow Fashion encourages us to slow down and be conscious about our decisions while shopping.

Educates

Revolving around the concept of being able to know who made your clothes, where was the fabric sourced from, how much time did it take to create it and how different things came together for that particular piece of fashion to come to the market; Slow fashion helps us discover and educate ourselves on the process. It also enables us to not compromise on quality as we are aware of the process behind it.

It tells a story

It highlights the craftsmanship of the people who make them and weaves a story of where it came from. Investing in Slow Fashion helps us express ourselves, what we stand for and what we feel, through the clothes we wear.

It helps you tell a unique story. Slow fashion brands are usually small-scale, making indie clothes and most pieces are hard to be recreated. So, it’s quite unlikely that you’d pass by someone on the street wearing the same top. If you do, it gives you a chance to interact with other people out there who are keen on investing in the same fashion that you do; it helps you strike a chord.

Builds a Community

Shared passions and purposes are what drive these movements and they make way for lasting relationships between, the makers, the brands and customers. This automatically changes the process of purchasing; it moves away from merely purchasing some goods from a seller to investing in a shared vision because you respect the people who make exactly what you love and helps you familiarize with other people who share the same interests.

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Roots by Nangalia Ruchira

One such name for Slow Fashion that we had the chance to work with is Ruchira Nangalia. She hails from Jaipur and her love for the place transcends into her creations.

Her newest collection titled “FLUID’ is an amalgamation of stripes and hand-looms with a hint of androgyny rawness. The collection is the epitome of Jaipur’s immemorial craftsmanship translated into a contemporary form.

A juxtaposition of handwoven fabrics sourced from South India in earthy colors mixed with a mustard palette gives it that freshness needed for summer. The designs, needless to mention, are bold, raw, and chic in character confabulating an androgynous yet feminine look.

Outfits: Roots by Nangalia Ruchira

Love!

Rad All Day.

Here Comes the Sun

Sitting at home and devouring mangoes, this is my ideal summer day!
Doesn’t it feel like just a few days ago we were greeting each other with new year wishes and yanking each other over our new year resolutions? Time really flies and Summer is here already.

There’s much to envy about Hyderabad, including our summers. Unlike most cities summers here are, yes HOT, but at least not humid. They can be a little too harsh and scorching at times but with the right choice of clothes and summer essentials you can be ever ready to beat the heat in style. I have tucked away all my warm clothes in my closet and have brought out all the summery outfits to keep the heat at bay.

Go minimalist 
Now Minimalist ≠ Boring! Summers are always about the happy, bright and feminine pastels styled in the simplest way.

Comfort:
Don’t give comfort a miss this season. Choose outfits made out of fabrics that are breathable. Cottons are always your safest bet and of late linens have been a big hit.

Colors: 
When it comes to summers, choose pastels. You can never go wrong with them. Pastels can be worn all year round, but during summers they induce a certain calmness.


How cool is this pastel blue dress by The Yellow Label? I took inspiration from The Greyhalfway and styled it with a chunky belt and boots. This is definitely my idea of a perfect summer brunch style – pastel, cotton, printed, volume sleeves – ah!

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About The Yellow Label

The Yellow Label is a modern Indian clothing label based out of Jaipur. It is a contemporary interpretation of Indian crafts. What I love about them is, while their motifs and fabrics our Indian, their color palette and silhouettes are chosen to meet the needs of modern Indian women. They handpick all our of their materials (including linings, threads & buttons), and work closely with the printers, weavers, vendors and manufacturers.
Love,
Rad All Day!

Timeless Drapes

Do you go back in time when you flip through old photo albums of your mom and realize that some trends are called ‘Classic’ for a reason and they stay true to it all times?

The Timeless Drape, the Saree is surely a marvel in Indian clothing. It showcases an exquisite sense of luxury and elegance that is a symbol of subtlety and feminity.

What better way than to work with the lady who wears her sarees like second-skin, Ankita Katuri.

Silk

Burrowing into our moms’ wardrobes, while we were discussing our looks, we made sure we picked some vintage sarees. Silk sarees in Ikat and Kanchi Pattu sarees with heavy Zari borders were what ruled the age of our mothers and we wanted to experiment with these trends and bring them back to life.

The color palette of Ankita’s pick is to the key. The contrast of colors played up with heavy zari is something that you could still pull off at a wedding with the right jewelry and that customized contrast blouse. The Saree that I picked was an Ikat silk one in a lovely lilac/lavender color and the subtlety of the saree is what makes it a timeless piece.

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Cotton Silk

The second look was a blend of plain Cotton Silk sarees paired with elaborate jewelry and contrast blouses. Cotton Silk is one of the most comfortable fabrics and the Sarees can be draped hassle-free in less than two minutes. If you are someone who is apprehensive of carrying off a heavy saree, cotton silk sarees are your safest bet.

I am personally in love with Ankita’s style, I have always been. Working with her was a sheer pleasure. The elegance she exudes in every outfit that she dons is RAD!

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Tips for styling Sarees:

  • Always keep some spare blouses in neutral colors – Black, Silver, and Gold. You never know when they’d come handy.
  • Choose Classics over Fancy. In my opinion, you can never go wrong with a classic saree.
  • Choose fabric and color over style. Do not overdo the saree look with overembellished picks; it steals it off of its elegance. You can always play it up with jewelry.
  • Pick your underskirt wisely. It is what will decide the look and fall of the Saree.
  • Ensure the Saree is pinned and secured.
  • Understand your body type and drape accordingly. There are various styles to drape a saree; it will probably take another post to sum that up 🙂

Jewelry by: Manjha Shop & Myesha

Pictures by: Subham Swain

Love,
Rad All Day!